- Award-winning columnist and author
- Recipient of Basketball Hall of Fame Curt Gowdy Media Award
- Joined ESPNBoston.com in 2010
Kevin Love is fretting about COVID-19.
He’s not obsessing over whether he’ll get it, or grieving over the death someone close to him who contracted the coronavirus. He frets because he knows what can happen when people experience the loss of a loved one, become consumed with the loneliness of isolation, experience job insecurity and extreme financial difficulty, then internalize that stress instead of getting help by reaching out and talking to a health professional.
“Listen, I don’t have all the answers — and likely never will,” says the Cleveland Cavaliers power forward, “but, speaking from experience, I can tell you there are resources out there that can help you.
“It’s really scary what’s going in on the world right now. But you don’t have to suffer through it alone. Take it from someone who did that for far too long.”
In August 2018, Love took the courageous step of sitting down with ESPN to publicly address his mental health struggles. He revealed a detailed account of a panic attack he suffered in the middle of a game against the Atlanta Hawks the previous November, when his heart began racing so fast, he felt it was going to pop out of his chest. Struggling to breath, Love stuck his hand down this throat in hopes of dislodging whatever was blocking his airwaves. There was nothing there. His panic attack left him splayed on the floor, believing he was about to die.
Since then, Love’s life has been transformed. He has willingly assumed the mantle as the face of mental health awareness, not just for the NBA, but across numerous sports, educational and cultural platforms. He created the Kevin Love Fund, an organization committed to normalizing the conversation around mental health.
And, with May designated as Mental Health Awareness month, he’s continuing to spread his message in these uncertain times that people should “pursue mental wellness with the same vigor they do physical health.”
“My life is dramatically different,” Love tells ESPN. “I have a lot more clarity about where I’m headed, and where we’re headed as a society in terms of removing the stigma from mental health issues. We still treat mental illness so differently from a physical illness. If you had a heart condition, you’d see a doctor and you’d take the necessary steps to fix the problem. Why should it be any different with mental health?”
Love has gradually peeled back the layers of how he’s managed to continue to play basketball while taking a proactive — and very public — approach to managing his mental health. A major part of his treatment, he says, revolves around cognitive behavioral therapy, a problem-focused technique which centers on changing negative thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors and providing coping strategies to help the patient improve his or her ability to regulate emotional responses.
But, Love discovered, cognitive behavioral therapy on its own wasn’t quite enough for him. He realized he also needed to pair his treatment with medication. Being on “meds” comes with added scrutiny. Some of Love’s NBA brethren, who could benefit from medication for a variety of mental health ailments, from ADHD to bipolar disorder, have rejected taking that step because they are embarrassed, consider medication a sign of weakness, or are afraid of the negative connotations associated with it and how it could affect their standing with the team.
“I know some guys don’t want to go there, but taking medication has changed my life in a big way,” says Love. “It has helped me manage this ongoing feeling of irritability, this feeling in the pit of my stomach that I couldn’t shake before. The medication helps me relax, without sapping my energy levels.
“I have been battling depression my whole life. And, when my mind starts to spiral, the meds help me to compress, and make it easier for me to escape going to that dark place.
“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that my struggles with mental health aren’t ever going away. That’s just not a reality. The medication helps me feel a little better in my own skin and my own brain. Whatever imbalance I have, this has helped me find more relief.”
Love stresses medication is not for everyone and it’s imperative to settle on the correct dosage, which may require some trial and error. Love constantly coordinates his treatment with the Cavs’ team doctors, the athletic training staff, and his own personal physicians. (For now, he says, he’d rather not divulge what medication he’s taking).
The Kevin Love Fund has found some unique organizations to partner with, among them the mindfulness app Head Space. Together they have provided student-athletes at UCLA, Love’s alma mater, with subscriptions to incorporate into their training programs. Love works closely with Michelle Craske, UCLA’s professor of psychiatry, psychology and biobehavioral sciences, who has done groundbreaking work on anxiety and depression. “They should put up a statue for her,” Love says. “She’s brilliant.”
The Kevin Love Fund has also joined forces with the Just Keep Livin’ Foundation, founded by actor Matthew McConaughey and his wife Camila, to help empower high school students to lead more active lives and make healthy, informed choices. Their program includes fitness drills, service projects and tutorials on nutrition. Love joined one of their zoom calls on May 10.
The most rewarding part of his role as a mental health spokesman, he says, is making a difference with kids, some as young as pre-teens. Last year, he counseled a 9-year girl who suffered from debilitating, repeated panic attacks and considered suicide. Her father reached out to Love shortly after he publicly came forward regarding his own struggles, so Love invited the young girl to a game and bought her a small stuffed animal to calm her when she felt one of those paralyzing attacks coming on. He did the same for a young boy who suffered from severe depression, but has shown improvement following his regular Instagram interactions with Love.
“Hopefully, it’s given those kids some fresh air,” Love says, “a way for them to feel there’s someone out there who can relate. It’s been a form of therapy for me, too.”
While the Cleveland Cavaliers recently opened their practice facility on a restricted basis, Love discovered when he was isolated from his teammates and his coaches, he needed to establish a routine and stick to it to maintain an even keel.
“I have to be a creature of habit,” Love says. “If I don’t stay in my routine, then I start feeling like I’m not doing enough, or not working towards anything, and then my mind can start to spiral downward.”
Those routines, he says, can be as simple as reading for an hour every night, taking an ice bath, doing some stretching and meditation, or setting aside a predetermined block of time to address his business ventures.
Love has been in contact with schools and universities throughout the country that will emerge from the pandemic underfunded and underserved. He is also lobbying for more mental health funds. Congress has allotted millions for medical relief from the virus, but only a paltry amount is earmarked for mental health. Love points to a Kaiser Family Foundation poll that claims nearly half of all Americans say the coronavirus has harmed their mental well-being.
Some of those Americans undoubtedly play professional basketball, but Love laments, even after all the work the NBA has done to remove the stigma, players remain hesitant to address their struggles.
“Guys don’t want to reveal too much,” Love admits. “There are so many people who still perceive this as a weakness. Players get scared if they talk about mental health, it will affect their future. They worry, ‘What does my owner think? What does my GM think? Is he going to trade me?’ I was lucky. The Cavs have been incredibly supportive.”
He prefers not to look back too intently on two years ago, when his mental health struggles were undiagnosed, misunderstood, and on course to sabotage his life.
“It robs you of your human potential,” Kevin Love says. “And it’s terrifying. But, for me, I’m happy to say, it feels like a long time ago.”
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